Every big success started from being small. People think that prominent public speakers were actually born with exceptional skills to speak in front of a big group of audience, but they missed an important justification in that idea. No one was born a good speaker because communication is not just a magic or a simple art of exchanging thoughts, but it is a science which follows a systematic process to evolve from being bare to being eminently good.
Start improving your communication skills – It’s not hard
Improving communication skills is a process, a long and usually hard one. Likewise, a public speaker also followed a long and hard systematic process in improving himself before he became who he presently is. And part of his training and most basic step for this feat, is his relentless effort to improve his personal and casual conversations in small groups. Yes, big successes indeed started from being small.
It would be rude to say that small and casual conversation is so easy it doesn’t need sweating. Actually, small talks are harder than a big one because during this course, a person is not just opening up his mind to his audience but he is opening up his heart and his whole being. A smaller space invokes more intimate exchange between two people. It is not always easy to talk personal things, because there is emotion at play and several hindrances in making even a small conversation ineffective.
Don’t speak in public when you’re stressed
There are barriers to an effective exchange of conversation between two people, and if you want to see if these barriers also exist in public speaking, scrutinise how it works in the course of communication process. One of these is emotion which usually comes in a stressful and out-of-control form. When a person is stressed or emotionally overwhelmed, he is most likely to misread the other person, thus sending perplexing or offensive nonverbal signals and trails off into unwholesome reactive pattern of behaviour. It is advisable for a person who is stressed during a conversation to take a moment to calm down before proceeding with the conversation because if not, he is most likely going to cause greater conflicts.
Other barrier in an effective communication is the lack or divisiveness of focus. This happens mostly to people who are so used to multi-tasking like using cell phone while talking, or daydreaming before talking or thinking about something else while the other is talking. Being out of focus may cause you to miss non verbal signals that are imperative the message your peer is giving you. Be present in the moment, and stop those habits for it’s not just a barrier to effective communication, it’s also a risk for moral standing – for being rude in front of a friend.
Incompatible or conflicting body languages also hinder effective communication; it will cause confusion as what you are saying does not relate to what you are acting out. It might make you appear untruthful about what you are saying.
Don’t neglect the body languages
And lastly, is one of the most overlooked barriers – the negative body signals. When a person doesn’t like what the other one is saying, he tends to send negative body signals and it can be seen in the crossing of arms, avoiding of eye contact or tapping feet. It might disrupt the other one in continuing what he has to say just to avoid the negative signals.
So if you are planning to develop your skills in becoming a great public speaker, do not just focus on the technicalities of voice modulation, or body movements and such. Try to engage into something more real and tangible, try engaging in an actual conversation with someone and assess yourself and see if you can succeed this small step until you get to the bigger ones, by being simply effective in delivering your message to the other person.